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TRIBAL GUIDEBOOK
Good Practices for Interesting Meetings

Source: YMCA Manual

The Chief and tribal officers should keep effective group practices in mind in their planning and
appraisal of tribal development. Remember that the basic purpose of Y-Indian Guide Programs is to
increase the number of things parents and children can enjoy doing together during the time when
children think their parents are the greatest. Thus it is important that the tribal meeting be interesting to
the young children and that they have ample opportunity to participate. The meeting must be oriented
toward the children, not the parents. Use the following suggestions as a guide for devising interesting
meetings:

Be concerned about all group members, the shy as well as the outgoing.

Start meetings on time; close them on time. Opening ceremonies should not spill over into program
time.

Aim the ceremonial parts of the meeting at the children. They should do most of the talking during the
meetings; it should be fun for them.

Focus program activities on the interests and capabilities of the children. Be alert to their needs.

Plan all phases of the tribal meeting carefully; contact families with special responsibilities in advance.
It is the Chief's job to see that the Chief's talk, reports, stories, games, and so on are chosen
beforehand.

Encourage all; share praise where it is deserved. Recognize the progress of all
Braves/Princesses/Maidens.

Pass responsibility around; Know the individual tribal members' interests and experiences. Assign
tasks carefully.

Be wary of parents' talking too much in tribal meetings; use parents' meeting regularly to handle most
business.

Facilitate team discussion and decision making on matters of behavior, program development, and
policy for tribe.

Be warm, supportive, understanding, and flexible. Be more concerned about the feelings and attitudes
of tribal members than with the accuracy of tribal ceremonies or procedures.

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Hints for keeping your Tribe strong and active

Meetings start and end on time, and do not go longer that 1-1/2 hours.

Refreshments are served prior to closing ceremony - giving an official ending to the meeting.

Activities are planned which are understandable to the children.

Tribe size is kept between five and nine pairs. Large Tribes become unmanageable in most homes.

The Tribe has a representative at all Nation meetings and maintains contact with the YMCA Director or
Indian Agent.

Parent Meetings are called whenever needed, but at least 3-4 times per year.

Parents and children sit together during meetings and refreshments.

A Tribe has at least two tribal activities each month (one being a Tribe meeting and the other an outing).

Parent-Child pairs work as a team wherever possible (i.e., crafts, games, skits, etc.).

Business and planning should be kept to a minimum during Tribe meetings.

Plan a tribe outing for the entire family at least twice each year.

Tribe members evaluate their Tribe program and progress as a group regularly.

The Tribe has varied activities. For example, Tribe meetings may include cooking, 1st Aid Instruction,
Scavenger Hunts, and Gift Making. Tribe outings may include trips to parks, museums, tours, movies,
sporting events and Nation Events. Tribe projects may include service projects, scrap books, photo
albums, tribe banners and tribal property. The Tribe may also participate in other YMCA programs such
as swim lessons, gymnastics, youth sports, or day and resident camping.

Members develop an enthusiasm, esprit de corps and pride for the Tribe.

The Tribe accepts and appreciates each member. All members feel needed and important.

Leadership is shared by all parents in the Tribe.


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Typical Tribe Meeting Outline

7:00
Chief calls meeting to order by asking one of the children to beat on the Tribal Drum once for each
child present. Talking should stop. Song or Invocation. Flag salute (if flag is available). Opening
Ceremony (from Chief's Manual).

7:10
Chief's Talk. Chief welcomes group and may tell a story about the season, some special event, or day
coming up.

7:15
Tally keeper takes roll and reads minutes of previous meeting. Wampum Bearer collects Wampum
Each Little Brave/Princess/Maiden/Papoose shares what they did to earn their Wampum. Wampum
Bag is passed around.

7:20
Chief asks for Scout reports from each child on a parent-child project, outing, trip or other activity they
have done since the last tribe meeting. Use of a talking stick is recommended as each child shares
his/her Scout report.

7:25
Business meeting. Cover only essential items that are of interest to Little Braves, Princesses, Maidens,
or Papoose. This may include announcements by the Chief of any upcoming Tribe or Nation Event,
YMCA News, etc. Other items should be covered at a Parent Meeting.
Review plan for the next Tribe meeting: When? Where? Who will plan program? Who will tell story?
Assign projects.

7:35
Program activities (Storytelling, games, special tribal projects, crafts, etc., that stress the parent and the
child participating together).

7:50 Light refreshments.

8:00 Story and/or songs

8:10 Closing Ceremony (from Chief's Manual).

8:15 Head for home.

Wampum is money collected from the children in a tribe. The amount is set by the tribe and is used for
special treats, to defray craft costs, or for anything else the tribe would like to use it for. The children
should earn the money by doing helpful or special things at home. Each child should be prepared to
tell other tribe members what he/she did to earn the wampum.


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Conducting a Tribe Meeting

Tribal meeting are rotated between parents homes with each parent hosting their share of the
meetings through the year. Parents and children should be dressed in their tribal vests at the meetings
and as a rule of thumb, we usually call each other by our Indian names whenever we are in our Indian
vests. If the planned activity will involve getting dirty, let people know in advance so they can dress
appropriately.

Step one starts at least a week before your meeting. Even though your meeting is already on every
ones calendar, you should prepare invitations for your meeting and deliver them to each house at least
a week in advance.

Your invitations should include the place, time, phone number, and directions to get there [We always
wrote directions starting with "From the Big Chicken"], a map is nice to. The children usually prefer to
make hand made invitations versus store bought. Also, you can dress up your invitations to match the
planned theme. Sign them with your Indian Names and put your "street names" in parenthesis.

One or two nights before your meeting you should make reminder calls to each person and sent out a
reminder email note if they have email.

Be prepared for your meeting. People will need a place to sit [consider putting children on the floor in
front of their parents] for the meeting. If there is a craft planned it should be already set up.
Refreshments should be ready so that no time is lost to preparation.

Start your meeting promptly. The Chief will have the meetings host child call the meeting to a start by
12 beats of a drum [or other prop if you don't have a tribal drum]. Everyone should be in place and
seated by the end on the last of 12 drum beats.

The Chief will call the meeting to order by the tribes name and the Pathfinder will read a devotional or
conduct a silent prayer.

The Chief will ask all to stand and hold hands in an unbroken circle for reading of repeating of the
pledge, aims, and slogan.

The Chief calls for the Tally keepers report. At a minimum the Tally keeper should take attendance with
each parent and child saying there Indian name aloud.

The Chief call for the Wampum Bearer to make his collection. Each child should tell of something they
did with their parent since the last meeting as they pass their wampum to the Wampum Bearer. The
Wampum Bearer praises each child and accepts the wampum into his wampum bag. [Wampum is
used by the tribe for a tribal event or donated by the tribe to favorite charity].

The Chief calls for "Scouting Reports". If any child has earned an award with their parent, they are
allowed to tell the tribe what they did. The Tally keeper should either present an award at that time or
recognize the child and parent for the achieving the award and present it at the next meeting [if they
don't have the award on hand].

The Chief call for the Pathfinder to present a story. Choose a story that involves a moral. Usually we
make it an Indian story in an Indian setting. The story should be short and read by the parent. See the
tribal manual for more details. In a pinch, tell the story of the headband with some embellishment of
needed or sing the "Pals Forever" or "Friends Always" song.

After the story the host will usually have the tribe make some sort of Indian craft or play a game. If a
craft is planned, both the parent and child should make a craft so that the child can observe the parent
and share ideas. If a game is planned, both the child and parent should participate, possibly as a team.
Remember that you are trying to place the parent and child in a level situation where the parents size
and experience doesn't give them advantage over their child. They should learn and do the activity
together. Also, always cut off a game before the children get bored at it. This will help them to look
forward to doing it again on another day.

Refreshment brake should be next and should last only about fifteen minutes. This is a good time for
everyone to talk about their experience doing the craft or game.

The meeting should end with the Chief calling the tribe to come together into a circle. This is a good
time to recognize and praise anyone who did something special during the meeting. also, the chief
should thank the host. The meeting is called to an end by performing the closing ritual described in
your manual:

"And now [point to ground], May the Great Spirit [point to sky], or all Great Spirits [both arms open to
sky], be with you now [point to person across from you], and forever more[pretend to shoot an arrow
into the sky], Yatahey!

End the meeting promptly and get everyone on their way quickly.


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Parent Roles in Tribes

One of the best ways to manage a team is to delegate specific and clear roles for each member and
have everyone focused on a common objective. Listed below are suggested roles for your tribe. The
common objective should be to realize the Indian Guides Aims.

Chief: The Chiefs biggest responsibility is to demonstrate leadership to the children of the tribe.
Children commonly view the chief as being a teacher. The Chief conducts the tribal meetings and
presides over the parents meetings. The chief also: Attends Nation and Federation meetings to
provide feedback about tribe activities; Brings information to the tribe from meetings; Votes on
selection of nation events; And participates in planning and management of the nation. The chief might
also head up a special event or project, or input new ideas and improvements to the program.

Assistant Chief: Carries out the Chiefs duties whenever he/she cannot be present. Attends nation and
federation meetings. Is in training for next years chief position.

Tally keeper: Keeps attendance records of meetings and events. Maintains the tribe calendar and
reminds tribe of upcoming events and points out the positive aspects of each event to muster
maximum tribe participation. Encourages members to pursue awards, coordinates getting attendance
and earned awards from the federation and presents them ceremoniously at a tribal gathering. This
person also maintains the "White Buffalo" point records and is responsible for sending in reports.

Wampum Bearer: Coordinates and manages all tribal wampum and any activities where money must
be collected and accounted.

Linesman: Provides communications to/from tribe. Makes reminder calls for nation and federation
events. Encourages attendance and points out positive aspects or each event to muster maximum
tribe participation. Collects and reports head counts for events when advance counts are needed.

Pathfinder: Prepares devotions and stories for the tribe in an effort to enhance the parent/child
experience. Searches out community service activities for the tribe to be involved in.

Historian: Takes notes at meetings and creates and maintains a written and photographic record of the
tribes activities. Might prepare articles for the federation newsletter to share interesting tribal
experiences. Encourages members to pursue the "Sand Painter" award.

All: Each parent will host their share of the tribal meetings at their house (or other meeting place). This
responsibility includes planning the meeting, sending out invitations, making reminder calls, hosting
the meeting with the Chief, and providing refreshments.

Also, maximize the parent/child experience. Make the time you spend together count as you live, learn,
play, and make memories together. Review the Indian Guides aims often and conduct your activities
such that the aims are achieved.


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Conducting the first Parents Meeting

The first parents meeting should be focused on division of roles between each of the parents and
establishing the initial calendar plan for tribe meetings. If you are a new tribe, you should start thinking
about a name for your tribe. You might want to chose the tribe name at your first tribe meeting so that
the children can be involved and have some input to names and voting.

Step one is to set up a one hour meeting at one persons home or a local meeting place where no
distraction will be occurring.

Call each person and give them the time, place, directions, and duration of the meeting. Be sure to say
it is a parents only meeting. You don't want the kids to be bored at their first meeting, nor do you want
them to think that meetings consists of parents in one room and kids in another. Also, tell people that
the meeting will start promptly on time and end in one hour.

The leader should be at the meeting early to assure everything is set up. Start the meeting on time!
have the refreshments served for consumption during the meeting if possible to avoid any breaks.

(First 5 minutes) Start with an invocation of some kind. My favorite is:

Thank you for deciding to join the YMCA Indian Guides Program.

We are we here? We are here to:

• Show our children our love for them.

• Know our children better

• Teach them leadership through example

• Build self esteem

• Teach them teamwork

• Teach them about the family of community

• Share with them the history and wisdom of the Native Indian culture

• Share with them the wisdom of our culture

• Teach them values of our culture

Have fun with your son/daughter

As you go on through the program you will become "Pals Forever" with your sons and "Friends
Forever" with your daughters. This program is designed to build a lifelong relationship with your
children by removing you from your high level of authority role and placing you at your child's level.
You will be doing things side by side with your children: Learning, playing, creating, singing,
exploring, and adventuring.

Please take this responsibility seriously, your children are at the age where they watch everything you
do. Make this time special and of the highest quality. You and your children will be making memories
that will last forever.

(Next 15 minutes) Pass out printed sheets of the parent roles and go over each at a summary level. It is
time for each parent to choose a role. I usually start by asking if anyone has any special skills that
might make them well suited for a particular role. We are all born special skills and we shouldn't miss
out a an opportunity to match up people with their natural skills. If that doesn't fill all of the role, you
can put names in a hat and choose.

(Next 20 minutes) When the roles are all assigned, pass out the calendar sheets and let each parent
choose when they will host a meeting. Remind them that some meetings are near holidays, some
parents might prefer to host a meeting with a theme that represents a favorite holiday or time of the
year. Plan at least three months out and more if time permits. End the calendar planning with a
confirmation of who is hosting the first meeting so everyone will know. Also, get with that person and
give them tips on how to conduct the first tribe meeting. This meeting can set the tone for the rest of
the year.

(Next 10 minutes) Take questions and perform a closing.


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FACTORS THAT BUILD A STRONG TRIBE

In order to insure a strong TRIBE, these few simple rules should be followed:

1. Both Parent and Child should make invitations and deliver them 3 to 5 days in advance of the tribe
meeting.

2. If games are played at the meeting, chose games that both parent and child can participate in
together.

3. Keep craft projects simple . . . within the abilities of the little Indians.

4. Stay with a "project" until it is completed. Do it well, and keep it for the children.

5. Parent-child teams should arrive on time for each meeting. The tribal meeting night should be an
unbroken date between parent and child. There are only 9 or 10 of these nights for the year.

6. Should absence be necessary due to an emergency such as illness, the chief should be notified as
soon as possible.  

7. Each Big Brave/and Brave/Princess should have permission before speaking.

8. Parent and child should sit together during meetings. This promotes togetherness and minimizes
any disturbances from the children.

9. All children should remain in the area of the house where the meeting is held and not be allowed to
enter other rooms of the home.

10. If an outdoor meeting is planned and it rains... you should still do something special. Plan for an
alternate activity.

11. Involve as many people as possible in tribe duties.

12. Plan Extra and Special Events and Activities.

13. More kid talk - Less parent talk

14. Have a costume (Regalia) for each member and encourage them to wear it at tribal and federation
event ceremonies.


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KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL TRIBE

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THIS PROGRAM IS FOR DEVELOPING A STRONG PARENT-CHILD
RELATIONSHIP.

ENTHUSIASTIC PARENT PARTICIPATION AT ALL TIMES.

ACCURATE, TIMELY AND CONSISTENT COMMUNICATIONS TO ALL TRIBAL MEMBERS.

ALLOW CHILDREN TO FREELY EXPRESS THEIR IDEAS AS TO THE CHOOSING OF TRIBAL
ACTIVITIES AND FIELD TRIPS.

BE PROMPT WITH MEETING TIMES BEGINNING WITH A WELCOMING CEREMONY AND END WITH A
CLOSING CEREMONY.

BE ORGANIZED AND TO THE POINT TO MAINTAIN INTEREST.

ALWAYS RESPECT EACH OTHERS TIME AND IDEAS.

OPENLY DISCUSS ANY AND ALL CONCERNS.

RELAX AND HAVE FUN WITH YOUR CHILD.

THE SECRET!!! YOU AND YOUR CHILD WILL GET FROM THE PROGRAM WHAT YOU PUT INTO IT !!!!!

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